Ever feel like the romantic relationship you’re currently in is eerily reminiscent of those from your past? In cases like this, you may have to admit to yourself that it’s actually not them—it’s you. Or, to be more cosmically specific, it might be your 7th house in astrology, which focuses on long-term partnerships. Depending on the sign(s) in your 7th house, you may even be able to predict certain cosmic-sanctioned patterns of conflict.
“The 7th house rules relationships and how we partner with people,” says astrologer Corina Crysler. “Unlike the 5th house, where sex, pleasure, and what we desire in another person lives, the 7th house is known as the house of marriage and committed or contractual partnering. It can also show us what we need in our relationships or the patterns we continue to have in our relationships.”
And to be clear, while the 7th house in astrology can often pertain to romantically partnered situations, it can also provide intel regarding business unions and creative collaborations. “The 7th house can show us who we decided to connect with and what we may see in others that could reflect what we see in ourselves,” says Crysler. “We can use the aspects of this house to reveal how we are with others and how our interactions may influence our own lives.”
Before we dive deeper into breaking down the 7th house in astrology, though, let’s do a quick refresh on astrological houses and how they correspond with planets and signs: Understand planets as forces that dwell in houses, signs as the personality the planets wear every day, and houses as where the traits of those signs express themselves. To learn the placements of your houses, consult your natal chart (or use an online generator like this one). Then, learn what signs in a certain house—like the 7th house, below—can mean for you.
Ready to learn how to use the 7th house in astrology to get insight into your relationship patterns? Below, Crysler breaks down what to expect, by sign.
Aries in the 7th house
Aries rules over the 1st house, the house of self, and since the 7th house rules relationships with others, this can be a conflicting placement. Don’t be surprised if selfishness has been a problem in previous relationships. That said, a good partner for you exists, and it’s someone who allows you breathing room you need.
“You will require your independence and ability to take charge of your life,” says Crysler. “You will need a flexible partner who is willing to take risks with you. In other words, they must be willing to ‘enjoy the ride.’”
Taurus in the 7th house
Because the 7th house in astrology is all about committed partnerships, a fixed sign like Taurus feels very at home there; Taurus is all about long-lasting, loyal, committed relationships
“Taurus builds their foundation on stability, trust, and values the ones they love,” says Crysler. “You will be able to create beauty and sensuality in your relationship when you feel grounded; however, try to learn to compromise and not always dig your heels deeply into the ground when things do not go your way. You may lose out on opportunities for love because you are too stubborn to admit you’re wrong.”
Gemini in the 7th house
With social butterfly Gemini in the 7th house, natural business partnerships will follow. You’re beloved because you know how to make people feel good. You’re inquisitive and curious about how to get to know others better, so you’re the perfect date and good at dating.
“Communication will be key for your relationships, and you will need a partner who will intellectually stimulate you—otherwise you will be bored,” says Crysler. “You will also be bored if your day-to-day routine is the same. Perhaps your emotional availability may need some tweaking, by getting out of your head and into your body.”
Cancer in the 7th house
You might have an emotional nature, and need a partner who is nurturing, patient, and willing to cradle your tender heart. Just know that there’s a fine line between being caring and the caretaker.
“Resentment can be something that slowly creeps into your relationships,” Crysler says. “Make sure you know what you are seeking before you become committed to someone.”
Leo in the 7th house
This placement can be filled with pleasure, warmth, and happiness. You’re extremely generous in your relationships, and you like to feel appreciated in how you take care of others—and you like your attention and generosity to be reciprocated.
“You will need to be the star in your relationship, and sometimes your own insecurities may be taken out on those you love,” says Crysler. “Do not go down the path of self-doubt, as it will cause issues in long-lasting relationships. Try not to get burdened by all day-to-day responsibilities, and allow yourself to ask your partner to pitch in and help you.”
Virgo in the 7th house
Virgo in the 7th house has a caring energy in relationships that prioritizes the well-being of others.
“You tend to have a healing hand and a capacity to extend that in your relationships,” Crysler says. “You will need a practical partner who can live with a certain amount of structure; however, perfectionism is both unattainable and boring, so try to accept people for who they are. Learn to let go of past disappointment and not bring it into current relationships.”
Libra in the 7th house
“This is the natural position for the 7th house, so relationships will come with ease and be an important piece of your joy and contentment,” Crysler says. “A possible pattern for this 7th house is you tend to lose your own identity to suit the needs of others. Make sure you know your nonnegotiables and don’t compromise what you are seeking in your relationships.”
Likewise, even though you want to avoid confrontation at all costs, be sure to communicate.
Scorpio in the 7th house
“Scorpio’s energy to seek the unknown makes this 7th house somewhat challenging for others, depending on their partners’ needs,” says Crysler. “Scorpio loves intimacy and will need this to express their love or desires through connecting on a physical level with their partners, which can often mean they are a great sexual partner.”
Physical intimacy aside, Scorpio in the 7th house tends to withdraw, retreat, and put up walls, which can make well-rounded intimacy necessary for relationships tough to create. “The mysterious aspects of this sign can sometimes make it hard for others to get close to them,” says Crysler. “Once trust is established, the relationship can be much more meaningful. Beware of jealousy or passiveness.”
Sagittarius in the 7th house
“Sagittarius ultimately needs to feel free,” says Crysler. “This 7th-house sign is willing to explore things that may not suit everyone. Long-distance relationships may be a typical for this sign, as the adventure will be appealing and fun.”
To help ensure these relationships last, be aware of and intentional with your word choice, which can skew biting. You might also want to steer clear of Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces love interests. “A dominant water-sign partner will get easily hurt, and might not be the best suited for you if you don’t understand their emotional needs,” Crysler says.
Capricorn in the 7th house
“Business partnerships will come natural to this 7th house placement,” says Crysler. “Loyalty will be a core value, making you a loving and committed partner; however, feeling responsible for others may become a burden and take away some of the magic and pleasurable aspects of your relationships.”
Likewise, you may skew guarded, which may cause recurring conflict with anyone trying to get close. “Pay attention to the walls you put up around being vulnerable to someone,” Crysler says. “You do not have control when it comes to love, so the sooner you learn to let your guard down and just enjoy it the happier you will be.”
Aquarius in the 7th house
“This 7th house has their head in the clouds, and sometimes their emotions can run astray, making them unaware of how they can easily detach,” says Crysler. “This is another sign that needs their independence. Too many rules in a relationship won’t work, you’ll get bored and check out. Your independence and staying true to who you are will be important, so you need a partner who can be accepting of that.”
Pisces in the 7th house
“This 7th house is very caring, loving, and all about the romance,” Crysler says. “You require affection and intimacy, as it will be your love language.”
But, don’t forget to give yourself some much-needed solo time—even if you don’t realize how important it actually is for you. “Even though you would prefer to cuddle up to your partner most of the time, codependency may become an issue.”